Trying to explain why I don’t like a particular kind of gender bender story. I can’t do this directly, so bear with me.

First off, I don’t think gender is a thing that inherently exists. Penises exist, but people say random shit like “men don’t cry,” and people with penises cry all the time, so penises seem divorced from whatever people talk about when they talk about gender. So I’m not really invested in the idea of gendering people. There’s no way I benefit from knowing whether my coworker is “he” or “she.”

The flipside is that choosing to have a gender is a form of self-expression. If you look at a gender and think “I want to be that,” then you’ve found a place for yourself and a goal to strive towards. It’s like having a Hogwarts house.

There’s a kind of gender bender story that’s like “this person identifies as male, but is a woman inside her heart, and cannot be a man no matter how hard she tries.” And to me, that’s just the magical fantasy flipside of “you will never be a real woman.” If someone forcibly removes your penis, that doesn’t mean you can’t choose to identify as male, so why should a magical spell change that?

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